Rejected on dating site

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These are multiple instances from multiple different men to multiple different women. The first thing I will never understand is how any human being can talk to any other human being this way.

I couldn’t ever possibly imagine myself saying these things to people I have never met without a damn good reason for doing so.

You use the internet to varying degrees of success, clicking and writing emails and then clicking some more, and sometimes, if the cards are in your favor and the stars align, you end up meeting a stranger in a public setting and make awkward small talk while wearing shoes that pinch your toes and more makeup than you would for a Tuesday.

When it’s over, you’re euphoric or despondent, alternating between mapping out a future for yourself or envisioning waiting for an email that never arrives.

“Bye Felipe” is an Instagram account set up by a woman who uses it to collect and showcase screenshots from various other women of what happens when they turn down men online (or just don’t respond to them at all). Even if you are perfectly nice and genuine, what’s to stop them from thinking you might fly off the handle if they don’t happen to feel a connection or want to continue dating you? In fact, it’s borderline infuriating, and I want to use words a lot stronger than tomfoolery. So rather than sounding all preachy as I type this out to those of you reading this, I am including some screenshots from the Bye Felipe Instagram account below, so you can see for yourself.

It should be noted that these are not just isolated cases. It doesn’t matter if you are a man or a woman – if you look at these real life conversations without cringing, you may need to have your moral compass calibrated. __________________________________________________________________________________ __________________________________________________________________________________ __________________________________________________________________________________ __________________________________________________________________________________ __________________________________________________________________________________ __________________________________________________________________________________ I mean, just…what?

Granted, for some people, a more heavy-handed approach is necessary. Polite is good, but if it doesn’t work, try sterner and firmer. If you need further coaching, go to your local electric company’s customer service department and see how it handles you when you try to dispute a bill by saying, “I never used that electricity.” Many appropriate ways are available to encourage someone to move along. This article points out the major ways to do so in specific situations.

But alas, danger often accompanies opportunity, and online dating offers its share of danger—for one, an exponentially greater danger of being dumped.A second reason is being a man myself, I actually have a vested interest in how other men act and are perceived – because we do represent each other in many ways.(For example, the phrase ‘all men are jerks’ or similar wouldn’t even exist if, well, most men weren’t actually jerks).I’m sure—at one time or another—you were rejected by someone you thought might end up becoming your life partner.No matter how hard you may have tried to protect your heart, I suspect you’ve experienced the so-called “agony of defeat,” or the pain that comes from being “dumped.” It’s happened to the best of us. It seems to offer the greatest opportunity—certainly the most efficient one—to find love.

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